Transition to College: Separation and Change for Parents and Students
by the Staff of the NYU Child Study Center, updated by Jess P. Shatkin, MD, MPH
Advice for both parents and students
Expect ups and downs.
One minute college students are the models of independence, the next they call in tears. Parents may also try too hard to advise from afar. This back and forth is natural and expected, as both students and parents become more comfortable and confident in the ability of students to handle situations on their own.
Little things do count. There can be some truth to "absence makes the heart grow fonder" but parents may worry that "out of sight means out of mind." So parents and students need to determine ways to stay involved in each other's lives and remember to say and do the little things that remind someone of their love. Cards sent home, care packages sent to school, pictures of events that were missed, and e-mail do provide a way to stay connected and involved.
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2. Bureau of Labor Statistics of the US Department of Labor. Number of jobs held, labor market activity, and earnings growth over two decades: Results from a longitudinal study. Available at: http://www.bls.gov/bls/newsrels.htm. Accessed August 14, 2001.
3. Horatio Alger Association. State of our nation's youth survey. 2000
4. Altschuler, GC. College prep: Adapting to college life in an era of heightened stress. New York Times. August 6, 2000;Education life supplement:12.
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This content was last modified on: 04/28/2017