Tactics used by Abusive Family Members

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Tactics used by Abusive Family Members

PHYSICAL ABUSE

Slaps, hits, punches
Throws things
Burns
Chokes
Break bones

SEXUAL ABUSE

Makes demeaning remarks about intimate body parts
Is rough with intimate body parts during care giving
Takes advantage of physical or mental illness to engage in sex
Forces you to perform sex acts that make you feel uncomfortable or against your wishes
Forces you to watch pornographic movies

ABUSING DEPENDENTS/NEGLECT

Takes walker, wheelchair, glasses, dentures
Takes advantage of confusion
Denies or creates long waits for food, heat, care or medication
Does not report medical problems
Understands but fails to follow medical, therapy or safety recommendations
Makes you miss medical appointments

THREATS/INTIMIDATION

Threatens to leave, divorce, commit suicide or institutionalize
Abuses or kills pets or prized livestock
Destroys property
Displays or threatens with weapons

RIDICULING VALUES/SPIRITUALITY

Denies access to church or clergy
Makes fun of personal values
Ignores or ridicules religious/cultural traditions

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Humiliates, demeans, ridicules
Yells, insults, calls names
Degrades, blames
Withholds affection
Engages in crazy-making behavior
Uses silence or profanity

USING FAMILY MEMBERS

Magnifies disagreements
Misleads members about extent and nature of illnesses/conditions
Excludes or denies access to family
Forces family to keep secrets

ISOLATION

Controls what you do, who you see, and where you go
Limits time with friends and family
Denies access to phone or mail

USING PRIVILEGE

Treats you like a servant
Makes all major decisions

FINANCIAL EXPLOITATION

Steals money, titles, or possessions
Takes over accounts and bills and spending without permission
Abuses a Power of Attorney

Content provided with permission from Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence (WCADV), and National Clearinghouse Against Abuse in Later Life (NCALL),

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This content was last modified on: 10/17/2005

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