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Tactics used by Abusive Family Members

PHYSICAL ABUSE

  • Slaps, hits, punches
  • Throws things
  • Burns
  • Chokes
  • Break bones

SEXUAL ABUSE

  • Makes demeaning remarks about intimate body parts
  • Is rough with intimate body parts during care giving
  • Takes advantage of physical or mental illness to engage in sex
  • Forces you to perform sex acts that make you feel uncomfortable or against your wishes
  • Forces you to watch pornographic movies

ABUSING DEPENDENTS/NEGLECT

  • Takes walker, wheelchair, glasses, dentures
  • Takes advantage of confusion
  • Denies or creates long waits for food, heat, care or medication
  • Does not report medical problems
  • Understands but fails to follow medical, therapy or safety recommendations
  • Makes you miss medical appointments

THREATS/INTIMIDATION

  • Threatens to leave, divorce, commit suicide or institutionalize
  • Abuses or kills pets or prized livestock
  • Destroys property
  • Displays or threatens with weapons

RIDICULING VALUES/SPIRITUALITY

  • Denies access to church or clergy
  • Makes fun of personal values
  • Ignores or ridicules religious/cultural traditions

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

  • Humiliates, demeans, ridicules
  • Yells, insults, calls names
  • Degrades, blames
  • Withholds affection
  • Engages in crazy-making behavior
  • Uses silence or profanity

USING FAMILY MEMBERS

  • Magnifies disagreements
  • Misleads members about extent and nature of illnesses/conditions
  • Excludes or denies access to family
  • Forces family to keep secrets

ISOLATION

  • Controls what you do, who you see, and where you go
  • Limits time with friends and family
  • Denies access to phone or mail

USING PRIVILEGE

  • Treats you like a servant
  • Makes all major decisions

FINANCIAL EXPLOITATION

  • Steals money, titles, or possessions
  • Takes over accounts and bills and spending without permission
  • Abuses a Power of Attorney

Content provided with permission from Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence (WCADV), and National Clearinghouse Against Abuse in Later Life (NCALL),

Copyright 2003

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Or Call Safelink: a 24 hour Hotline for Information and Referral Call 1-877-785-2020

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This content was last modified on: 10/17/2005

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